The Illusion of Perfection (and how it holds us back)New from Dr. Marctagon
Perfection is a myth. It’s also a deception. We often let the idea of perfection 1. keep us from being happy 2. keep us from improving. We often put things on the pedestal of perfect as something we can never attain or we break our backs trying to put something up there.
How many times has someone asked you about a part of your life (school grades, relationship, job) or your life in general and the first words were “It’s not perfect but…”. Sometimes I counter with, “Well what is?” Sometimes perfect in our eyes isn’t necessarily flawless but it does draw on this utopia where everything is so complete and we have no complaints or grievances. My friend, that world does not exist. There may be times where a peek into another’s world may look perfect but believe me, it’s not.
I made 2 points earlier about perfection and I want to address each separately. So, #1, we let the idea of perfection keep us from being happy. We don’t allow ourselves to be happy until things are perfect. That is both doing yourself a disservice and setting an impossible benchmark. Even if your idea of perfection isn’t flawless, per se, our barometer for perfection changes as we evolve.
“Okay, things will be perfect when I lost 100 pounds.” Then you lose the hundred pounds. “Okay, not yet things will be perfect when I add some muscle to my jiggly arms.” You attain said muscle, then what? “Ok things will be perfect when I have abs.” You get the picture and guess what happened during that whole process? You didn’t stop to appreciate how far you’ve come and you forgot to be happy. I could go on for days just on the topic of happy but that’s a different post for a different day. Today is about trying to be perfect.
Person 1: “Hey, how are things with your girlfriend/boyfriend?”
Person 2: “Well, we’re not perfect but I guess we’re all right.”
If you’re waiting for things to be perfect to fully enjoy and embrace your mate then you might as well end it now because I’m afraid that day will never come and even if it does, your idea of “perfect” may have changed and things still won’t be “perfect”.
Stop and embrace the person you love for the imperfect person they are and love the hell out of them. If you can’t do that, then you don’t need to be together. Would you want them to wait until you’re perfect to full engage and be involved with you? Of course not.
Now moving to point #2, the idea of perfection keeps us from improving. How so? I’m glad you asked. People tend to downplay or deny accountability for their flaws under the guise of “I’m not perfect.”
Person 1: “Why can’t you stop cursing out everyone who makes you angry?”
Person 2: “Well, I’m not perfect, so people are just going to have to deal with it.”
Why would you improve who you are when you can just hide behind the shield of not being perfect? “I’m not perfect..” is an excuse to keep you from being your best self. It’s an excuse to keep you from pursuing all the things you wanted to do.
“I can’t pursue this business because I’m not perfect.”
“I can’t fully accept God or God won’t love me because I’m not perfect”
Your imperfection is what makes you perfect! It’s okay to want something more and to improve yourself but how you are right now is exactly how you’re supposed to be. So strike that word perfect from your vocabulary, it has no place unless you’re talking God Almighty.
Bask and revel in the fact that you’re not perfect nor do you have to be nor does life have to be. Life is a splendid thing no matter where you are or who you are in it. If you want to improve, do it, just don’t waste your time on the illusion of perfection.
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